What are our contemporary metaphors for childhood? As I look around me and talk to parents, I see two very different sets of metaphors dominating how parents and educators think of childhood and its purpose. These metaphors are important because they tend to dictate the decisions we make for our children. These metaphors dictate what we prioritize in our children's lives.
The overwhelming metaphor in Singapore seems to be that childhood is a sort of training ground for the fierce battle and hardship of adult life. In this vein, childhood is also a race: the fastest runners get admitted to top colleges, which then lead them to secure jobs, money, and prestige.
Childhood is a rehearsal for the "play" of adult life, which begins when kids grow up. Everything about childhood is geared towards some future pay-off in the adult world.
In contemporary Western education rhetoric, the "training ground" metaphor prevails as well. We have to teach our kids 21st century skills to make them employable in an increasingly complex and competitive globalized world. The whole goal of childhood is to prepare children for the stress and competition of the adult world. The goal of education is to make children employable. In fact, I often read articles and blogs about what Google, Apple, and Microsoft are looking for in future employees, and the needs of these companies drive education policy around the world. Childhood becomes nothing more than preparation for a highly competitive, mercenary, individualistic and capitalist world.
In contrast, through history, many writers and poets have historically viewed childhood in a fundamentally different way. It is a fleeting, magical time of imagination and dreams, a time to be revered, romanticized, and cherished.
Childhood is freedom; as the child grows up, he becomes imprisoned by the chains and shackles of the adult world. But in childhood, only in childhood, he is uninhibited, un-self-conscious, and free. Childhood is the Baby Krishna stealing butter and hiding from his mother, childhood is children skipping and splashing in puddles, childhood is laughter and mischief, rainbows and phoenixes. These are the magic years.
As parents, we are acutely aware of how stressful our own lives are. We work all the time, our expenses are high, our world is changing rapidly -- often too fast for us to adapt and change along with it -- and we're always afraid of being left behind in an increasingly stressful race. It is no wonder then that the 21st century metaphors for childhood place such emphasis on the training of the child. It would be impractical, perhaps even cruel and negligent, to not prepare our kids for the world they will need to navigate as adults.
On the flip side, however, what do we lose and what do our children lose when we forget those alternative metaphors that capture the transient joy, magic, and wonder of childhood? These metaphors may indeed be romanticized, idealistic, and entirely impractical, but they are also beautiful.
We all need poetry and beauty in our lives. Perhaps childhood is the beauty and poetry of human existence.
Here are some competing metaphors for childhood: where do you stand? And how do your metaphors dictate the choices you make for your kids on a daily basis?
Childhood is an organized, regimented march towards adulthood VS childhood is a leisurely stroll through the woods?
Childhood is a running race VS childhood is a playground or a dream?
Childhood is a plant in a well-manicured garden: we sow the seeds, we carefully nurture the plant, and we do everything we can to make it yield the most beautiful flower, the tastiest fruit. OR Is childhood a wildflower that grows as it pleases?
Childhood is a sanctuary, a shelter from the wind and the rain. OR is childhood a form of boot camp, where kids are disciplined and toughened up so that they can actually survive the battlegrounds of adult life?